“So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.”
One of the questions I’ve received since announcing the little one’s arrival this December is,”Will you still be vegan during pregnancy? What about after baby comes?”
So I thought I would give some clarity, insight and love to these types of questions. First, I consider myself plant based more than I do vegan. I eat as many whole foods and vegetables as possible to keep me and baby healthy and happy. I eat vegan butters, milks, cheeses, and yogurts– all coconut based and all delicious.
So what makes me plant based rather than vegan? I eat local, raw honey. If I’m out to eat I will sometimes buy a slice of quiche or an egg salad croissant.
I believe in balance. I believe in wholeness and living well. I believe that perfection does not exist and that if we hold ourselves or the people around us to such standards that we have no where to go but down.
I would say I’m 99% vegan, and that’s alright with me. I think about adding the good stuff to my diet rather than taking away. I live to manifest abundance and love rather than deprivation and starvation.
When baby is ready he will eat the way we eat, plant based and full of goodness. The plant based diet is proven time and time again to be the very best for humans. Don’t believe me? Watch the documentary What the Health online, then we’ll talk. If I know something makes me feel so whole and healthy and connected to the world why wouldn’t I want my little one to feel the same?
I want to avoid dangerous pesticides, herbicides, and other synthetic chemicals in our baby’s environment.
I want to raise compassionate children who are confident enough in social settings to say they prefer not to eat meat, but kind enough to do it without making other children feel judged.
I want to instill a love for all creatures in our children so that they grow up with a kind spirit. And, I want to learn the truth from people we trust and pass that truth along to the ones we love.
Bonnie Rae xx
BONUS: For a beautiful example of a plant based mama raising two beautiful babes on a plant based, vegan diet click here.
“When we nourish ourselves with good people, projects, surroundings, scenery, love, magic, beauty and self care, we radiate light, into the world and continually sharpen our vision, perception, and clarity all at once. This in turn spreads to other beings which spreads to even more. Remember that one tiny drop can raise an ocean. Keep wanting. Desiring. Doing. Breathing in the sweet things.” Victoria Erickson
I am endlessly impacted by my physical surroundings. We constantly absorb the energy around us whether we realize it at the time or not. I can not rest or relax if the house is a mess. If even the smallest thing in my office is not sitting well with me I can’t be productive.
When we nourish ourselves with good (physical space, relationships, podcasts, books, scenery) we put good out.
Our kitchen was bugging me. It was dark and sad and didn’t match the rest of our light and airy home. With a little paint and a lot of work we changed all that.
Now our physical space makes us smile. The white cabinets and grey floors make cooking a dream. I no longer want to stay out of the kitchen, that’s the first place I want to go.
What in your life is weighing on you? A toxic relationship? A room full of clutter? It may be impacting more than you know.
You have the power to change your surroundings. What a gift and privilege that is. Be thankful for that gift and change what you can, with what you have, where you are.
Bonnie Rae xx
P.S. Want to find out if you and your partner can make it for the next 80 years? Paint your kitchen on a 90 degree holiday weekend while one of you is 17 weeks pregnant. Only one fight was had, everyone remained calm, I’ve never been so proud of us.
“There is no such thing as ‘away’. When we throw anything away it must go somewhere.” Annie Leonard
I’ve written before about my zero-waste journey and how my progress has come along. July is almost here and I am taking on an additional experiment- plastic free July!
Everything plastic that has every been created is still in existence. Even if it has taken the form of another product it’s still here. Once in your hand, forever in the land fill.
Our plastic consumption is one of the largest waste producers and yet, there are so many alternatives and ways to reduce or eliminate our plastic use. While I will be participating in plastic free July I hope you’ll consider cutting down on how much plastic you use each day.
Here are the big four plastic waste products and wonderful, sustainable alternatives to consider:
You may already have these zero waste alternatives in your home, the trick is to remember to use them. Create a zero waste kit and pop it in your car. Bring it with you wherever you go, make it a new habit or ritual.
If Chase and I forget our reusable bags we carry everything in our hands or run out to the car to find them. We’ve received a few funny looks but only a few. Most people don’t question you when you say, ‘We don’t need a bag, thanks!”
At Starbucks or your local coffee shop they’ll be happy to use your reusable cup. If they’re confused at first take that chance to spread your message, let them know that you’re cutting down your plastic consumption and why. That’s how beautiful ideas are planted, as gentle seeds through human conversation.
If you need some extra inspiration (or a kick in the pants to cut down on this plastic stuff) look at these garbage islands in the ocean. Participate in plastic free July- you can do it, a few habit shifts and you’ll be there.
There’s no such thing as “away” it must go somewhere.
That’s right world, we’re having a BABY! I should specify, a human baby. We already parent five little furry ones.
Little one will be arriving sometime in December; just in time for snow flakes, hot cider, Christmas music and lights. But I’m getting ahead of myself- we’re still in the middle of 90 degree days, swim suits and popcicles.
Little one was a surprise. A beautiful, unexpected, hilarious, terrifying, amazing surprise that woke us up and made us pour over with emotions. Who would have thought we wanted this so badly!? We didn’t even know. The best surprise of my life that I never saw coming, we never saw coming.
Now I want to say something to my other mamas, women, dads, men, HUMANS out there- when it comes to a surprise pregnancy there is no wrong choice you can make for yourself. I hope you know deeply within your heart that if you are not ready, that’s okay. And if you are ready, that’s okay too. If you need time to think and breathe and talk- good. No one knows your heart like you do. Every choice is the right choice. Life is long and big and scary and full of wonder. Take time to listen to your heart and your head. Know your resources and your rights. Everything is a choice, life is a choice. Don’t you ever feel guilty about doing what is best for you.
There, I’ve said my piece and I’m sticking to it.
I thought I would answer a few questions I would have for a minimalist mama to give a little insight in to my head space and my life right now. So here they are, leave any questions of your own in the comments and I will answer honestly and openly.
What have you bought for the baby?
Nothing. Not a single thing. I’m entering my second trimester and I haven’t bought a darn thing. Now I will eventually get some things for little one. I’m sure they will be well researched, organic and simple. But overall, despite what the world tells you, babies don’t need a lot. They need love, food, warmth, a place to rest- the basics. They do not need tons of plastic light up toys or the latest clothes they’ll grow out of in a week. I don’t want to weigh little one down with stuff before it even gets here. New moms are bombarded with information and products – everything seems urgent and must-have. I’ll take a slower approach, a simpler way exists. Mamas have been doing this for a long long time.
Will you blog about baby?
I will! I will share ups and downs and in betweens along the way. This blog is my favorite way to share my life and my heart, it’s also wonderful to have to look back on. One day baby can read it too! What I won’t be doing is having a “public pregnancy.” There is a strange pressure that has emerged in our world to share each and every moment of pregnancy and life with baby. From pregnancy announcements to gender reveals- its a lot. I don’t think it should be an expectation. You do not have to have a public pregnancy. So, I will share what I want to when I feel most comfortable, but it will be simple. Simple and full of love, insights and understanding. Everyone is different and everyone needs to do what feels right to them but I will say once more you are under no obligation to have a public pregnancy. Oh and gender reveals? They’re actually biological sex reveals, baby will let you know their gender.
How will your wardrobe change?
Get ready for A PREGNANCY CAPSULE! Coming soon 🙂
Will little one be a minimalist too?
I don’t know yet! Baby might be a minimalist, or they might not. It’s all about what sparks joy. As baby gets older they will decide what works for them and mom and dad will just deal. Ideals and values can’t be pushed or forced, they can be shared and exemplified but never forced.